Love is patient, love is kind…
As much as love is wonderful, it does take some effort to keep both you and your S.O. happy in the long run. Here are seven scientifically proven tips that are proven to make relationships last:
Say Thank You
In the beginning of your relationship, you gushed every time your S.O. brought you your morning cup of coffee, but now you barely notice when it appears on your bedside table. Everyone likes to feel appreciated, but being in a long-term relationship can mean you start taking each other for granted. In fact, researchers found that the simple act of saying “thank you” to your partner regularly can be powerful enough to protect a couple’s divorce proneness. Gratitude is also key to any successful and healthy relationship.
Hold “Team Meetings”
Just like in business, it’s essential to do a daily check-in with your S.O. No matter how short or how long, you always want to make sure you’re communicating, from little updates at work, to appreciating each other or even talking about your future plans (short-term or long-term).
Couples who show more respect for each other – especially during conflict – have a better chance of staying together in the long run. There are always going to be problems in a relationship (there is no such thing as a “perfect” relationship) but handling any issue with both positivity (even sharing the chore list) and care for your S.O. goes a long way.
Put Down the Phone
You know that snubbing someone with your phone is bad for relationships in general, but how about fighting via text message? One study found that couples who apologize or try to work out their differences via text message tended to report higher levels of unhappiness. The fix? Talk through the hard stuff face-to-face, instead. (P.s. it’s completely acceptable to send a quick “I’m sorry” text to your S.O. for the small stuff though, like forgetting to pick up extra bananas at Trader Joe’s.)
Try New Things Together
Studies show that couples who try new things together regularly are happier in relationships. That’s because new experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with feel-good chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine. So, instead of spending date night at your usual restaurant, why not try going to a concert or out dancing? Shake things up to keep things stable.
Even if it’s a wink or quick hand squeeze, showing your S.O. you care via touch speaks volumes. It’s important to make sure you make time to spend being affectionate for each other and knowing that what you two have is far from platonic.
Be Your Partner’s Cheerleader
A fascinating study found that the way couples react to each other’s good news is vital to a long-lasting relationship. And the news doesn’t have to be about the big stuff, either. Did your partner beat their PR time at their last race by three seconds? Did they accomplish a project at work? High five, all the way.
What are your tips for strengthening your relationship with your S.O.?