After an incredibly empowering 48 hours at Cosmo’s Fun Fearless Life, I feel ready to take on the world. All I can think about is the number of goals I want to accomplish and how I feel even more motivated to work on them all right now.
To give you an idea of what the past two days were like, the conference was held at Lincoln Center in NYC and filled with a number of inspirational speakers like Sara Blakely (the creator of Spanx), Amy Cuddy (the queen of power poses/body language – her Ted Talk is incredible), Kelly Osbourne and, of course, the editor-in-Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine, Joanna Coles.
Topics ranged from constructing a plan to meet your long-term goals on a daily basis and managing your money to finding your inner voice and why it’s so important to invest in yourself (physically, emotionally, etc.) every day. And let me just say, just being in a room with all of these brilliant, bold and equally ambitious women was empowering in itself.
I feel like because Cosmo hosted it (with partners Maybelline New York and Express!) it was bold and completely relatable; I connected with a lot of the messages the speakers addressed – from overcoming something I was told I couldn’t do or learning to trust my gut.
I wish I had enough space to recount the entire weekend, but I did notice a few words of advice that all of the speakers seemed to live by:
Surround yourself with positive people.
Take time to edit the people who you spend time with – if they don’t lift you up or believe in you, they are not worth your energy to have around. By eliminating those who subtract from our lives, we get rid of the negativity that exists around us and create more room to welcome nurturing and renewed energy. Making this change not only enriches our lives, but also envelops us in a healing and supportive space that fosters greater growth, understanding, and love of ourselves – as well as those we care about.
Fake it till you become it.
The saying is as true as it always was; if you don’t feel confident, pretend you are until you gain the experience or tools necessary that it is all for real. Though it might feel artificial and forced in the beginning, research shows that soon it will become more natural until you are happier and healthier.
Don’t be afraid to use your weak ties…
Reach out to others when looking for an opportunity. Most of your friends will know similar people and therefore you will have less of a chance of branching out to something new.
OR own up to your ambitions.
If you don’t put it out there, you won’t get anywhere. Be frank about what you want and the goals you have set for yourself and always stay true to your authentic self.
Presence increases power and power increases presence.
Being mindful of your presence or body language is just as important when communicating with those around you. Taking just two minutes to do a “power pose” or two – especially before a big interview or meeting – can increase your confidence in the long run.
Don’t edit yourself.
Live the life you want and stop worrying about what other people think about you. The people who are true successful make themselves stand out from the pack.
Tie massive emotion to your goal.
It’s important to examine the motivation that drives your goal and harness that emotion to succeed. For instance, for someone struggling with their weight, looking at the health problems that are associated with certain foods and how you want to live a long life can be motivation. This will keep you from straying to that 2nd (okay third) piece of pie come Thanksgiving weeks into your goal.
Be the light.
Happiness is a choice. Lean towards joy for all given circumstances. By creating the positive energy in the room, you are subconsciously helping others become positive, thus creating more joy and consequently a better environment for everyone.
And, most importantly, love yourself.
I couldn’t have asked for a better weekend filled with inspiration and networking – not to mention that I actually got to meet Joanna Coles at the VIP party Saturday night with Nana and she thought I looked fabulous (!). I know that what I learned from all these incredible women (and men) will stay with me, so if you notice a changes, you know where they came from
Here’s to a #FunFearlessLife, friends!
P.s. I have to also give a big shout out to my roommate, Marissa who has been working on this event for weeks – she truly embodies the definition of a fun, fearless Cosmo girl!